Fema Merin Jacob

Interesting 𝐌𝐲 𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐫, 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐨𝐥𝐝𝐞𝐫, 𝐧𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠. 𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭. 𝐑𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐦𝐛𝐞𝐫 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐛𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐨𝐧𝐜𝐞? 𝐃𝐢𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐚𝐝𝐯𝐢𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐞𝐥𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟? 𝑫𝒐 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒕𝒓𝒚 𝒕𝒐 𝒉𝒆𝒍𝒑 𝒖𝒏𝒍𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝒓𝒆𝒒𝒖𝒆𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒅. 𝑫𝒐𝒏'𝒕 𝒊𝒎𝒑𝒐𝒔𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇 𝒐𝒏 𝒂𝒏𝒚𝒐𝒏𝒆. 𝑫𝒐𝒏'𝒕 𝒕𝒓𝒚 𝒕𝒐 𝒑𝒓𝒐𝒕𝒆𝒄𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒅 𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒔 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒊𝒔𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒖𝒏𝒆𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒍𝒅. 𝑱𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎. 𝑫𝒐𝒏'𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒊𝒏 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒕𝒉; 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒏𝒆𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔; 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒈𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒏𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕; 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒓𝒆𝒕𝒊𝒓𝒆𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕..! 𝑫𝒐𝒏'𝒕 𝒕𝒖𝒓𝒏 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒂𝒏 𝒐𝒍𝒅 𝒒𝒖𝒂𝒓𝒓𝒆𝒍. 𝑫𝒐𝒏'𝒕 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒆𝒄𝒕 𝒈𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒕𝒖𝒅𝒆 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝒄𝒉𝒊𝒍𝒅𝒓𝒆𝒏. 𝑹𝒆𝒎𝒆𝒎𝒃𝒆𝒓: 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒏𝒐 𝒖𝒏𝒈𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝒄𝒉𝒊𝒍𝒅𝒓𝒆𝒏 ...

I read the book ' Becoming' by Michelle Obama and watched Oprah Winfrey's interview of Michelle Obama. These are some takeaways for us- women. 1. Never depend on your spouse to make you happy. Your happiness is your responsibility. Instead of focusing on what he's not doing, let's focus on how to carve our own niche and lead a purposeful life. Don't wait for the arrival of Man of house to begin your life or your children's life. 2. Walk your own walk. Don't compare your walk with others lest we cannot enjoy our own walk. 3. The best thing about your body is it's healthy. We can wake up from our bed and do all functions effectively. Don't be too judgemental about your body. 4. Never let a bully's insults or aggression get to you personally. It's not about you, but them that they bully. When they go low, we go high.

ഒരാൾ മുട്ടുമടക്കിയാൽ എന്തു സംഭവിക്കും? ജോർജ് ഫ്ലോയ്ഡ്  എന്ന കറുത്ത വർഗ്ഗക്കാരന്റെ കഴുത്തിൽ കാൽമുട്ട് അമർത്തി വച്ച് പോലീസ് കൊലപ്പെടുത്തിയതിൽ പ്രതിഷേധം ആളിപ്പടരുകയായിരുന്നു   അമേരിക്കയിൽ ഈ ദിവസങ്ങളിൽ. രാജ്യത്തിന്റെ എല്ലാ പ്രധാന നഗരങ്ങളിലും "എനിക്ക് ശ്വാസം മുട്ടുന്നു" എന്ന ജോർജിന്റെ അവസാന വാക്കുകൾ മുദ്രാവാക്യം പോലെ വിളിച്ച് ആയിരങ്ങൾ തെരുവിലിറങ്ങി  പ്രതിഷേധിച്ചു.  വാഹനങ്ങളും കെട്ടിടങ്ങളും  അഗ്നിക്കിരയാക്കിയും തല്ലിത്തകർത്തും  അക്രമങ്ങൾ പലയിടത്തും അരങ്ങേറിക്കഴിഞ്ഞു. സമരാനുകൂലികൾ എന്ന മട്ടിൽ തെരുവിലിറങ്ങിയ സാമൂഹിക വിരുദ്ധർ കടകൾ കൊള്ളയടിച്ചു. അക്രമം അടിച്ചമർത്താൻ ലാത്തിച്ചാർജ്, ടിയർ ഗ്യാസ്, റബ്ബർ ബുള്ളറ്റ് തുടങ്ങി പല വഴികളും പോലീസ് പരീക്ഷിച്ചു നോക്കി. ബ്രൂക്‌ലിൻ സിറ്റിയിൽ സമരക്കാർക്കു നേരെ പോലീസ് വാഹനം ഓടിച്ചു കയറ്റി. പലയിടത്തും പോലീസ്  വെടിവയ്പ്പിൽ ആളുകൾ  കൊല്ലപ്പെട്ടു. മിക്കവാറും നഗരങ്ങളിൽ കർഫ്യു ഏർപ്പെടുത്തേണ്ടി വന്നു. എന്നാൽ, കഴിഞ്ഞ ദിവസം മുതൽ  പ്രതിഷേധങ്ങൾക്ക് ഒരു ട്വിസ്റ്റ് ഉണ്ടായിരിക്കയാണ്. മെയ് 31 ഞായറാഴ്ച ഉച്ചയ്ക്ക് ന്യൂയോർക്ക് പോലീസ് ...

How a Password Changed a Life ... A true story from Readers Digest I was having an average morning until I sat down in front of my office computer. "your password has expired”, a server message flashed on my screen, with instructions for changing it... In my company, we have to change passwords monthly.. I was deeply depressed after my recent divorce. Disbelief over what she had done to me was what I thought all day long .... I remembered a tip I’d heard from my former boss. He’d said, “I’m going to use a password that is going to change my life”. I couldn’t focus on getting things done in my current mood.. My password reminded me that I shouldn’t let myself be a victim of my recent breakup and that I was strong enough to do something about it. I made my password – Forgive@her. I had to type this password several times every day, each time my computer would lock. Each time I came back from lunch I wrote forgive her. The simpl...

His phone rang in church by accident during prayers. The Pastor scolded him. The worshippers admonished him after prayers for interrupting. His wife kept on lecturing on his carelessness all the way home. His co-vineyard workers shook their heads in disgust You could see the shame, embarrassment and humiliation on his face. He never stepped foot in the church again. That evening, he went to a bar. He was still nervous and trembling. He spilled his drink on the table, bottle falls by accident and it splashed on some people. Those it touched rushed towards him. He closed his eyes expecting bashing of words or slaps. Instead they cared to know if he didn’t get a cut from the broken bottle. The waiter apologised and gave him a napkin to clean himself. The janitor mopped the floor. The female manager offered him a complimentary drink. She also gave him a huge hug and a peck while saying, "Don't worry man. Who doesn't make mistakes?" He has not stopped going...

A friend of mine named Paul received an automobile from his brother as a Christmas present. On Christmas Eve when Paul came out of his office, a street urchin was walking around the shiny new car, admiring it. “Is this your car, Mister?” he asked. Paul nodded. “My brother gave it to me for Christmas.” The boy was astounded. “You mean your brother gave it to you and it didn’t cost you nothing? Boy, I wish . . .” He hesitated. Of course Paul knew what he was going to wish for. He was going to wish he had a brother like that. But what the lad said jarred Paul all the way down to his heels. “I wish,” the boy went on, “that I could be a brother like that.”

A farmer had a dog who used to wait by the roadside for vehicles to come. As soon as one came, he would run down the road, barking and trying to overtake the vehicle. One day the farmer’s neighbour asked the farmer “Do you think the dog is ever going to overtake those vehicles?” The farmer replied, “That is not what bothers me. What bothers me is what he would do if he ever caught one.” Many people in life behave like that dog who is pursuing meaningless goals.

A successful woman was asked to share her secret of success. She smiled and said "I started succeeding when I started leaving small fights for small fighters. I stopped fighting those who gossiped about me...I stopped fighting with my in laws...I stopped fighting for attention...I stopped fighting to meet public expectation of me...I stopped fighting for my rights with stupid people..I left such fights for those who have nothing else to fight...And I started fighting for my vision, my dreams, my ideas and my destiny. The day I gave up on small fights is the day I started becoming successful. Some fights are not worth your time. Choose what you fight for wisely. HAPPY WOMEN’s WEEK !!

A young lady sat in a bus. At the next stop a loud and grumpy old lady came and sat by her. She squeezed into the seat and bumped her with her numerous bags. The person sitting on the other side of the young lady got upset, asked her why she did not speak up and say something. The young lady responded with a smile: "It is not necessary to be rude or argue over something so insignificant, the journey together is so short. I get off at the next stop." This response deserves to be written in golden letters: "It is not necessary to argue over something so insignificant, our journey together is so short" If each one of us realized that our time here is so short; that to darken it with quarrels, futile arguments, not forgiving others, discontentment and a fault finding attitude would be a waste of time and energy. Did someone break your heart? Be calm, the journey is so short. Did someone betray, bully, cheat or humiliate you? Be calm, forgive, the journey is ...

Once there was a king who received a gift of two magnificent falcons. They were peregrine falcons, the most beautiful birds he had ever seen. He gave the precious birds to his head falconer to be trained. Months passed, and one day the head falconer informed the king that though one of the falcons was flying majestically, soaring high in the sky, the other bird had not moved from its branch since the day it had arrived. The king summoned healers and sorcerers from all the land to tend to the falcon, but no one could make the bird fly. He presented the task to the member of his court, but the next day, the king saw through the palace window that the bird had still not moved from its perch. Having tried everything else, the king thought to himself, “May be I need someone more familiar with the countryside to understand the nature of this problem.” So he cried out to his court, “Go and get a farmer.” In the morning, the king was thrilled to see the falcon soa...

As I sat in the park after my morning walk, My wife came and slumped next to me. She had completed her 30-minute jog. We chatted for a while. She said she is not happy in life. I looked up at her sheer disbelief since she seemed to have the best of everything in life. "Why do you think so?" "I don't know. Everyone tells I have everything needed, but I am not happy."Then I questioned myself, am I happy?  "No," was my inner voice reply. Now, that was an eye-opener for me. I began my quest to understand the real cause of my unhappiness, I couldn't find one. I dug deeper, read articles, spoke to life coaches but nothing made sense. At last my doctor friend gave me the answer which put all my questions and doubts to rest. I implemented those and will say I am a lot happier person. She said there are four hormones which determine a human's happiness - Endorphins, Dopamine, Serotonin, and Oxytocin. It is important we understand these hormones, as...

You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage—pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically, to say “no” to other things. And the way you do that is by having a bigger “yes” burning inside. The enemy of the “best” is often the “good.”

7 Habits of Highly Effective People Habit 1: Be Proactive Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind Habit 3: Put First Things First Habit 4: Think Win/Win Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood Habit 6: Synergize Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw ---- The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People- Stephen R Covey

Consider the story of two stonemasons.  You walk up to the first stonemason and ask, “Do you like your job?”  He looks up at you and replies, “I’ve been building this wall for as long as I can remember.  The work is monotonous.  I work in the scorching hot sun all day.  The stones are heavy and lifting them day after day can be backbreaking.  I’m not even sure if this project will be completed in my lifetime.  But it’s a job.  It pays the bills.”  You thank him for his time and walk on. About thirty feet away you walk up to a second stonemason.  You ask him the same question, “Do you like your job?”  He looks up and replies, “I love my job.  I’m building a cathedral.  Sure, I’ve been working on this wall for as long as I can remember and yes, the work is sometimes monotonous.  I work in the scorching hot sun all day.  The stones are heavy and lifting them day after day can be backbreaking.  I’m not even...

I found this so inspiring, so I thought I should forward it: Michael Jordan was born in 1963, in the slums of Brooklyn, New York. He had four  siblings and his father's earnings were not sufficient to provide for the whole family. He grew up in a poor neighbourhood. Exposed to mindless violence and heavy discrimination in the slums, he saw for himself only a hopeless future. His father saw in Michael, a lost soul and decided to do something. He gave Michael, who was 13 years old, a piece of used clothing and asked: "What do you think the value of this outfit would be?" Jordan replied,"Maybe one dollar." His father asked, "Can you sell it for two dollars? If you can sell it, it would mean that you are a big help to your family." Jordan nodded his head, "I'll try, but no guarantee that I'll be successful." Jordan carefully washed the cloth clean. Because they didn't have an iron, to smoothen the cloth, he l...

Rhonda Byrne says:  "Neville recommends at the end of every day, before you go to sleep, to think through the events of the day. If any events or moments did not go the way you wanted, replay them in your mind in a way that thrills you. As you recreate those events in your mind exactly as you want, you are cleaning up your frequency from the day and you are emitting a new signal and frequency for tomorrow. You have intentionally created new picture for your future. It is never too late to change the pictures."

Rhonda Byrne says:  "If you have been living your life saying to yourself, “I will be happy when I have a better house,” “I will be happy when I get a job or promotion,” “I will be happy when the kids are through college,” “I will be happy when we have more money,” “I will be happy when I can travel,” or “I will be happy when my business is a success,” you will never have those things because your thoughts are defying the way love works. They’re defying the law of attraction. You have to be happy first, and give happiness, to receive happy things! It can’t happen any other way, because whatever you want to receive in life, you must give first! You are in command of your feelings, you are in command of your love, and the force of love will give back to you whatever you give out."

Paulo Coelho says: "I can choose either to be a victim of the world or an adventurer in search of treasure. It's all a question of how I view my life" "People are capable, at any time in their lives, of doing what they dream of."

Someone asked, "Why do we have brakes in a car" Many answers were provided like "to stop", "to reduce speed" , "avoid collision" etc., but the best I found was, "To allow you to drive faster" Give it a thought. It's true but seldom appreciated. It's because we have brakes that we can dare to accelerate, dare to go fast and reach destinations we desire. At various points in life, we found our parents,teachers, mentors, friends and spouse etc. questioning your progress, direction or decision. But remember it's because of them that you are where you are today. Learn to appreciate the 'brakes' in your life.

Something that touched my heart:--- On my way I found a piece of paper tied to an electric pole, with a small note on it. I was curious to know what was written, hence went closer and read it. "I lost Rs. 50 somewhere on the road. If any of you find it, please give it to me at this address. My vision isn't great so please help" I was urged to follow that address and found an old hut in shatters with an older woman sitting outside. She was frail and asked who is that, following my footsteps. I said I came by this way, found Rs. 50 on the road so wanted to handover to you. She began crying on hearing this. She said "my dear I have had atleast 30-40 people come over and give me Rs. 50 saying that they have found it on the road. I dint write that note, I cannot even see properly nor do I know to read and write" I said it's OK amma you keep it. *She asked me to tear that note off on my way back.* I walked back with a million thoughts as to who could...